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⭕ The Internal Game: Building Unshakeable Confidence

Host: Will Carter (@TheWillCarter) with cohost Avni Mohindra (@Avni_Mohindra) · Date: Wed 29 Jul 2026 · Duration: 2:08:33 · ~9 speakers

TL;DR

The weekly "Internal Game" episode tackled why confidence collapses under pressure, with guest life coach Sheshn (Sean Heshmap) as co-host for most of the session.
Two working definitions anchored the talk: confidence as certainty in the likelihood of an outcome (Will) versus the deeper conviction in self — and the recurring theme that competence creates evidence, but evidence has to be turned into confidence internally.
Sheshn shared a long, vulnerable story about attaching his worth to money, a house and business wins, then getting hit by a chronic illness that forced him to rebuild his sense of self from the inside out.
Devin opened up about a childhood kidney disease (FSGS), dark teenage thoughts, and how signing up for football — despite being out of shape — became the choice that rebuilt his confidence.
Running threads: fear as "false evidence appearing real" (Justin), the 10,000-hour competence-first argument (Judas), and the freedom of not needing others' approval (Cauvée, Avni, Will).
Sheshn plugged his Sovereign Man Brotherhood coaching program (prices rising end of August); Will closed on self-worth being inherent and confidence being a learnable, experience-built skill.

Highlights

[3:10] Sheshn's three pillars of confidence. The guest opened with his framework: how you think and feel about yourself, self-trust (the "internal bank" you fill by following through on your word), and — the one he says male coaches skip — the ability to feel any emotion without resistance. "Worst-case scenario, you're just gonna feel some disappointment... but they're just feelings, they will pass."

[10:31] Will's two-part definition. Will separated the mechanical ("degree of certainty in the likelihood of an outcome") from the internal, which he reframed as conviction — "I know that I will always find a way." He later mapped Justin's competence/confidence link onto the four-quadrant matrix and the Dunning-Kruger effect.

[13:16] Justin's "I'm not even warmed up yet." Justin French tied competence directly to confidence, warned against putting your personal brand on hold (his 15-year mistake), and reframed the AI-driven layoff era as forced entrepreneurship where self-promotion is a survival skill.

[35:44] "Let the test be your testament." Justin's line on fear as "false evidence appearing real" and turning tests into testimony landed hard — Sheshn immediately said he was pocketing it, and Avni built on the idea that anxiety is "literally making up imaginary evidence in our head."

[42:19] Cauvée: does confidence actually disappear? Cauvée offered a gentle reframe — if confidence vanishes when you need it, that may just mark an earlier stage of the journey. He described diving into venture capital and realizing "you ain't even scraping the surface," arguing that the direction of the fear is the direction to walk.

[54:12] Sheshn's story of losing everything but himself. The emotional centerpiece: Sheshn recounted early quick wins, selling his house to move to Arizona, then a chronic gut illness with unpredictable flare-ups, 4 a.m. work nights, stolen laundry, an ER trip, and the realization that he'd been attaching his worth to what he had. "Can you still be solid within yourself? That's a huge skill to learn."

[1:09:20] Judas: competence before approval. Judas Phi Gates traced "confidence" to confidere (to fully trust) and made the case for the 10,000-hour path — become genuinely competent first, then worry about others' approval, because chasing approval before competence is where people get stuck.

[1:14:36] Cauvée on the cocky label. "If you thought that shit was cocky, damn." Cauvée's deadpan story about his mother calling him cocky, and a troll in a Space he happily answered with "I am fucking amazing," set up the room's biggest laugh — and the serious point underneath: "your opinion has no power over me."

[1:44:08] Will on rehearsal, self-concept and the Navy SEALs. Will connected fear and excitement as the same sympathetic pathway, explained self-concept via Steve Andreas, and described how SEALs mentally rehearse combat until it's automatic — "you can't intellectualize this... it must be experienced," physically or imagined.

[1:49:18] Devin's football decision. Devin's condensed but raw account of childhood kidney disease, Prednisone weight gain, dark thoughts at 13, and the choice to sign up for football anyway — "What do I have to lose?" — which led to five years playing in college. Avni named it: positive reinforcement from the people around him.

Notable quotes

"Worst case scenario, you're gonna feel a little embarrassed. But they're just feelings, they will pass." — Sheshn [4:36]