# Re:Envisioning Web3 | Fireside Chat: Jed & Lyss — "The story no one knows"

**Host:** Jed (@jed_131) · **Guest:** Lyss (@Lysss302) · Fri, May 8 2026 · 2:34:31 · ~12 speakers

## TL;DR
- Jed hosted an impromptu, nervous-as-hell fireside with Lyss, billed as "part two" of a story she'd only told a handful of people — the real story of how she lost her Doberman, Cooper.
- Lyss revisited her lupus diagnosis — the medication, the prednisone, the two-hours-earlier alarms just to get dressed — and how Cooper got her through it.
- The reveal: Cooper didn't die of cancer, as she'd told everyone for years. Two weeks after a move to Long Island, he defended her from her then-partner during a bad night, and New York law required he be put down. She contacted hundreds of Doberman rescues trying to rehome him and couldn't.
- Code.E, Ava, Astro, Crono and others added their own Doberman and dog-loss stories; the room's recurring theme was that Cooper did exactly what a well-raised protection breed does.
- Lyss refused to let anyone soften it — she kept insisting she made a bad call by not leaving two days earlier, while Astro offered a reframe she accepted: own the mistake, drop the regret.
- Housekeeping at the end: LT3 space at 4pm ET, Rebuilding Together at 8pm, and Code.E's main card Twitch event with Archie Apes as sponsor.

## Highlights

**[9:30] A motivational cold open about showing up anyway.** Before anything heavy, Jed ran a clip about Lou Gehrig's 2,130 straight games and consistency — "Winners do consistently what amateurs do occasionally" — then dedicated it to Lyss, who he described as so consistent she's annoying: 2 a.m. texts reminding him he said he'd do a pop-up. "I'm like, yo, this girl's crazy. But you know what? This is also a superpower."

**[15:46] Lyss on why she said yes.** She didn't pretend to be excited. She said she'd committed to leaning into vulnerability in 2026 — a commitment that started with a chat on her birthday — and that she'd leaned on friends that morning before deciding today was the day.

**[21:49] "I'm definitely not a feminist."** Jed brought up how she talks to bartenders and waitresses everywhere they go, and Lyss took the mic to clarify exactly what she means by it: she bartended at a Buffalo Bills bar in a hoodie and leggings and out-earned people wearing less, because she worked hard and connected with people. Her point wasn't judgment, it was that the brains and the hospitality are enough.

**[26:00] The lupus years.** Waking up unable to get out of bed, setting her alarm two hours early just to shower and dress, hands turning purple, prednisone taking her weight and her drive. The line that landed hardest: "what I think is the toughest thing about lupus is that people can't see it. So you're like going through this war with almost like your yourself, your body's attacking you, and no one knows it."

**[37:11] Starbies, the pup cup, and a dog in a raincoat.** The deliberate levity break before the heavy part. Cooper "grew up on Starbies" — morning macchiato for her, pup cup for him, the drive-thru girl clocking how fast he was growing. Jed came out firmly anti-dog-clothes; Code.E intervened on behalf of Doberman kidneys, noting that for all their intimidating reputation they are "literally sugar when it comes to rain." Jed's rebuttal was essentially that he grew up with pits and nobody put slippers on anybody. Lyss, for the record: the raincoat was worn once, for the photo op.

**[1:00:15] The real story.** Two weeks into a move to Long Island, with the relationship already going badly and Cooper stressed by barking neighbor dogs, her partner had too much to drink. Jed asked earlier [50:05] whether they fought in front of the dog — yes, and Cooper would go hide in the corner behind the bed, one of her biggest regrets. That night Cooper went at her ex and did serious damage. The landlord and neighbors found out, and under New York law the dog had to be put down. Her ex and his family pushed to do it immediately rather than buy her time.

**[1:07:00] 256 rescues and a court date.** She emailed Doberman rescues across the country for weeks, offering to pay, and got one week of delay at most. The regret she keeps returning to: two days before it happened, her dad offered to drive down and bring her and Cooper home, and she said she'd give it a month.

**[1:11:18] The drive downtown.** Puppy Xanax, bacon and chicken and everything he loved, her in the back seat with him the whole way in from out east while her ex drove. They don't let you in the room. "That was definitely the probably the hardest drive of my life was taking Cooper downtown and knowing he wasn't coming back." Jed needed a minute and handed the mic off.

**[1:14:01] Code.E's near-miss.** He shared a parallel story about Kilo nipping his grandmother's then-boyfriend after the guy postured over a puppy, and the guy demanding the dog be shot — plus the detail that a dog reads your energy through two fingers on a leash, so Cooper already knew before any hands were on him. It's the most emotional stretch of the Space from someone other than Lyss.

**[1:20:00] The neighbors who let themselves in.** The one genuinely funny Cooper story: friends walked into her unlocked country house unannounced, looking for booze. Cooper was fine until he saw she was startled — then he took the neighbor by the jeans and escorted him out, past the driveway, past the Jeep, all the way home. No injury. "How do you even know where they live?"

**[2:01:14] Astro's reframe, and the thing Lyss would accept.** After a long stretch of the room telling her not to feel guilt and Lyss refusing to let them, Astro threaded it: nobody gets to tell you how you feel, it's fine to call it a mistake — "Just leave that regret out of it." That one she took: "I think that's the perfect way to put it." She also noted why Cooper stopped when he did: she told him to, with words, from across the room, and he listened.

**[2:08:37] The grooming van.** Immediately after the heaviest stretch, a dog grooming company Jed never ordered showed up at his house and his dogs lost their minds on-air. Lyss, unmoved: she's seen those dogs jump on the table during FaceTime business calls. Jed: "I told you I'm very embarrassed about that."

**[2:23:11] Stru's 3:42 a.m. field report.** Stru (@instrumental250) recapped the two-hour overnight call that preceded the Space, including the running bit that Lyss has two phones "like she thinks you're your rapper" and had been inadvertently screening him for months. His offer of a GoFundMe for a DMX-style "One Love Cooper" full back piece was declined on the grounds that you don't put a bumper sticker on a Rolls Royce.

## Topic timeline

| Time | Topic |
|---|---|
| [1:00] – [14:38] | Opening, music, Lou Gehrig consistency clip |
| [14:41] – [21:48] | Why this Space exists; Lyss's 2026 vulnerability arc |
| [21:49] – [25:40] | Lyss on women, hospitality and not leaning on looks |
| [25:41] – [29:12] | The lupus diagnosis and what it took from her |
| [29:12] – [45:24] | Getting Cooper, training him, Doberman talk, Starbies, raincoat debate |
| [45:24] – [1:00:15] | Setup: the relationship, the move to Long Island, jealousy over the dog |
| [1:00:15] – [1:13:56] | The real story — the night, the law, the rescues, the last drive |
| [1:14:01] – [1:40:55] | Code.E, Astro, CryptoBulliez, Sho, Ava respond with their own dog stories |
| [1:41:21] – [2:07:30] | Guilt vs. regret; Lyss on owning a bad call; Astro's reframe |
| [2:08:37] – [2:27:21] | Lighter turn: grooming van, DeStefano's, Stru's overnight call, dog walking plans |
| [2:27:21] – [2:34:31] | Closing, event announcements, outro track |

## Notable quotes

- "Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do long after the mood you said in left." — motivational clip, [9:30]
- "What I think is the toughest thing about lupus is that people can't see it. So you're like going through this war with almost like your yourself." — Lyss, [28:30]
- "Not only was he not a bad dog, he was a fucking great dog, because that's what great dogs would do." — Jed, [1:09:20]
- "That was definitely the probably the hardest drive of my life was taking Cooper downtown and knowing he wasn't coming back." — Lyss, [1:12:12]
- "To stand up in front of a bunch of strangers or friends on X on a stage to take all your armor off... that is not an easy task." — Code.E, [1:48:25]
- "It's okay to 100% accept the mistake. I think the point is to not live with regret." — Astro, [2:01:14]
- "Why are people becoming so soft that they can't even say that they made the wrong call? ... But I made the wrong call, and that's okay." — Lyss, [2:13:20]

## Who said what

- **Jed** (@jed_131) — Host. Opened by admitting this was the most nervous he's been doing a fireside, carried the questions gently, took a break when it got to be too much, and spent the back half arguing — warmly and unsuccessfully — that Lyss should stop calling it a mistake.
- **Lyss** (@Lysss302) — The subject. Told the lupus story, then the Cooper story, with no interest in being let off the hook. Closed with a plea to take dog ownership seriously and an offer to talk to anyone in a bad relationship.
- **Code.E** (@CodeeNCX) — Doberman owner and the room's breed expert; explained what the dogs are bred for, told his own near-miss story with Kilo, and framed the Space itself as step one in Lyss letting go.
- **Astro** (@astroquirk_) — Opened with guitar, closed with the line that reframed the whole guilt conversation. Also said plainly that "everything happens for a reason" doesn't help him, which Jed respected and answered with why it helps him.
- **Ava** (@AvaaNCX) — Doberman owner; told Lyss that Cooper did it out of pure love and was more scared for her than himself, and that anyone unmoved by the story needs their head checked.
- **Crono** (@Crono1000) — Insisted Cooper goes down as a hero and that admitting mistakes is how you grow; drew a friendly disagreement from Lyss over whether *everyone* is amazing (she holds that gems are rarer than that).
- **CryptoBulliez** (@CryptoBullyzNFT) — Walked in mid-story and admitted he didn't have the context, then spoke well on the responsibility of bringing an animal into your life, and on Web3 people being people with lives outside the timeline.
- **Sho** (@AgogoKaren) — Nine years on an animal rescue board in Texas; told Lyss her real contribution going forward is educating people on getting a dog for the right reasons.
- **Stru** (@instrumental250) — Stayed up for this after a two-hour overnight call with Lyss; brought the comic relief and the proudest-dad energy.
- **Walt** (@WaltDisneyIF) — Called in from Consensus en route to Korean fried chicken; promised to meet up in NYC.
- **BeeCuzFuture** (@BeeCuzFuture) — Longtime friend who already knew the real story; told Lyss the system failed her, not the other way around.

## Worth a full listen

- **[1:00:15] – [1:13:56]** — The core of the Space. The whole account, uninterrupted, in Lyss's own voice. No summary carries the pauses.
- **[1:14:01] – [1:22:15]** — Code.E's Kilo story and Lyss's reply ("I feel like we're holding hands"), then the neighbor-by-the-jeans story. Grief and comedy back to back in about eight minutes.
- **[1:57:35] – [2:03:41]** — The push and pull over guilt: Lyss refusing to be placated, Jed refusing to let her carry it, Astro landing the distinction between mistake and regret.